Looking back, looking in , wasting time,

We all have those shoulda woulda coulda shouldn't have done that moments or maybe for some episodes, but if you'd done it differently , you wouldn't be where you are. You may argue that , that's precisely the point but you'd probably end up where you are sometime.

Being where you are may not necessarily be pleasant but hopefully you are much wiser for it. For starters I wish I'd taken the job in New York when I was 20, it was a good position and I was too afraid. Staying in my country and learning how to be an employee in a place of comfort and familiarity helped me grow into knowing how far I can be pushed and the kind of woman I want to be.

I could've been brave and taken the job but I was too young and too naïve to realize that I wasn't as grown as I thought I was. How do I know this? Well I'm grown enough to know that at my current tender age ( 20+++') I'm still not done growing yet.


It's human to be fearful of an adventure, sometimes giving in and choosing different is beneficial as long as you don't use your fear to stop you from being great. When I had grown a bit more, I took a job or two overseas. I covered the score and conquered a fear, I'm better for it but far from great.



A friend of mine recently updated his status "In my life, I've had significant failures, hundreds of wrong decisions & countless stupid mistakes. If given a second chance, would I change?.....Because it made me who I am, the answer is NO.. I am not tough, but I am slightly strong enough to win my fight! I will though, always, change my habits, only to progress!"





So dwelling in the past for the sake of a woulda shoulda coulda pity party is wasting time.


Accept, Learn and Grow.

Give in to a fear, go regroup and arm up, then go fight the battle a wiser person.

A definite conqueror



             WISER AND BADDER!!!!!